It’s getting old.
Posted By: Ms. That Girl | March 16, 2010 | 3 comments
I can’t even tell you how many times a guy has asked me, “Why do girls stay in relationships with guys who treat them like shit?” Usually, the question comes from a guy who is trying to prove to me that he’s a “nice guy”, and whining about how “nice guys always finish last.” No. Insecure guys finish last. Clingy guys finish last. Suffocating guys finish last. Just because you would drop everything for me at any moment, doesn’t mean you’re nice. It means you have no life.
Well, anyway- to answer the question, it’s pretty obvious. Sometimes, a girl will stay in a relationship with an asshole because when he is nice every once in a while, it’s that much more quenching to her desire to be loved. It’s not fucking rocket science. We want to feel special. BUT, it’s one thing to be a challenge for a girl, and it’s another to be a complete and total doucher. There’s a fine line between staying in a healthy push/pull relationship and an abusive one.
Almost every girl I know has had trouble getting out of a relationship that sucks ’cause the guy isn’t respecting her the way she should be respected. It’s something we generally experience in our teens/early twenties. Unfortunately, that isn’t always the case. Some women just never realize that there needs to be a balance. Some will stick with a dickhole boyfriend because they don’t love themselves enough to say “You know what? I don’t deserve this. Fuck you.” And some will just be so jaded that they’ll settle for that disgustingly attentive, overwhelming, clingy boy next door just because it’s the polar opposite of a past abusive relationship. None of this is love. It’s weakness.
There are so many women who need to just wake the fuck up.
“Why doesn’t he wanna spend time with me? Why doesn’t he call me? Wahwahwah.” Because you’ve proven yourself to be a doormat. Because he CAN do whatever he wants- you LET him. Because you never drew the fucking line. THAT’S why he doesn’t call you. Because he’s out drinking with his buddies, and he KNOWS if he wants guaranteed ass when he gets home, he’s got you wrapped around his little finger. That’s no fun. That’s the same old shit he’s had at his discretion over and over again. Do you think he wants that? Or do you think he wants the girl with the nice rack at the bar who denied his phone number request. Guys are naturally competitive. They want to EARN their win. You’re the “It’s OK- better luck next time” safe-ass bet.
Ladies, find a guy who cares about your well-being. A guy who is at least willing to listen to your argument, even if he disagrees. A guy who WILL disagree sometimes. Someone who lives his own life, and let’s you live yours. And they ARE out there- you just won’t recognize one if you’re too hung up on some tool, or if you’re being suffocated by a needy little boy. Open your eyes…
Until then, I don’t wanna hear it. Thank you.
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Colleen March 16, 2010 at 2:25 am
i love reading this and realizing that I’ve got the right man based on that final paragraph…. =)
Nicole Jenet March 16, 2010 at 1:48 am
I could not agree more with you. But there are guys out there that do the exact same thing. Everyone, guys and girls alike, need to realize their worth.
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